Using your spawn as a pawn in your breakup

This topic may sound a bit racy but for those to whom it applies, then it fits perfectly. Stop using your child as a pawn in your breakup between yourself and your spouse. There are some many stories in this regard and it keeps happening. Women are especially guilty of this although men do it too.
You are hurting your child or children. Whatever the problem is, it is between the adults so stop placing your children in the middle or using them as pawns in your sick twisted, game.
So the relationship or marriage did not work out, regardless of the reason, stop using your child as leverage against your spouse. These have turned out so badly in some instances. There have been cases where the disenfranchised spouse kills the child and then himself.
Think about it, you have separated and you get custody of the child plus child support, the father only gets visiting rights and even that you want to strip from him. In this case although you know he loves his child and would never hurt him/her you still dig in to deny him as much as possible from seeing his child, especially when you know how much the child means to him.
Remember that your child will grow up one day and will eventually learn the truth as you can hide everything from the child for so long.
So, parents, regardless  of what your spouse did to you, please do not deny the other parent of seeing their child or plant negative seeds in your child's head about the other parent. In the long run, whether you recognize it or not, you are hurting our child. This will be one bitter and confused child.
Regardless of the reason for the breakup, leave your child/children out of your mess, it is just not healthy for them and if you love your children any at all, you would not hurt them this way.

It takes two to tango

So far it may seem that I may be biased towards women in my posts, so now I will place my focus in favour of men as it takes two to tango. It is so easy for women to complain about their men, such as, they are not considering their feelings, or not helping out at home to name a few. Let us look at the other perspective. What would men complain about?
Nagging: This is a common complaint among men. Men hate to be nagged and I am not saying that they do not deserve it at times but as women we need to learn when to pick our battles.

No! No! No! to that relationship

We all want to be loved and that is a good thing. It is a great feeling to be in love and to feel love, however, one should not settle for less than they want. I am not talking about placing your expectancies high above what you are willing to give or superficial expectancies, such as, a rich partner who owns a castle or yacht.
The concern here though is about the negatives. It is really disheartening to hear some of the stories that individuals, whether men or women put up with in a relationship and then complain about.
A classic case was where this young lady told her boyfriend that she wanted to slow down the relationship and then he got vengeful and started sending her receipts of past dates and informing her that she needs to reimburse him. The worst part to the story is she is wondering if she should continue the relationship as she does not have the money to repay him. Seriously!!!? This guy is the epitome of jerk and she should run far from him. This is the cue to let her know that she should not continue a relationship with him. He obviously is controlling and if he does not get what he wants then bad things will happen. This would be a toxic relationship and she would not be happy. It makes me feel so upset even just writing this. He has no scruples! When they were dating, he willingly paid for the dates, that is what men do but to want his money back when she wants to slow things down is just plain low.

Growing together or apart

For any relationship to last and to be happy, it needs work. When two person come together in a
relationship, regardless of their baggage that they each carry, their relationship basket is empty and requires them to fill it together. Many persons enter into a relationship and expect everything to happen at once the way that they want it. Also, the relationship may start out perfect, you spend a lot of time together, you complete each others' sentences, you are the ideal perfect couple.
Life does not stand still so you either grow with it or stay still. With life evolving, it could be a matter of job promotions, children or other family issues, such as, illness. These are some of the triumphs or challenges that are in the basket and how they are dealt with determines the strengths of the individuals or even the 'basket'.

Two becoming one

The scriptures teaches that a man and woman shall leave their parents and be joined together in matrimony and the two shall become one.
Is this to be taken literally? Do the two individuals now become like Siamese, where they are always together and doing the same things? Does this mean that they no longer connect with family and friends?
This would seem like a boring and claustrophobic life. I do recognize that there a some people who actually believe that this is what it means when two individuals get married. Sure, you need to spend time with each other and get to know each other more but you also need time apart to cherish the relationship that you have.

Should you compromise in the relationship or for the relationship?

So often we hear of complaints, mostly from women, about their relationship with their spouses. Sure there is different strokes for different folks but I find that women can be picky and seemingly dissatisfied. Now when a woman complains that her husband refuses to "pee" in front of her, is she still in her right mind? Women are being verbally and physically abused, in relationships with men who are addicts and their only contribution to their relationship is to create more havoc in their lives than anything else and her concern is that her husband refuses to pee in front of her?! Seriously lady?!

To share or not to share your partner

In this day of sexual exploration and liberation, we find couples exploring with each other as well as with others or engaging in bisexual relationships. The question is, is there monogamy in bisexual relationships?  A case in point, a bisexual female gets together with a man then vows that she would give up her other relationship and be faithful to him. Is this really possible? Can a bisexual partner stick to one sex/gender completely and be faithful? Is this a relationship that someone seeking a faithful partner should get into and hope for the best?