No! No! No! to that relationship

We all want to be loved and that is a good thing. It is a great feeling to be in love and to feel love, however, one should not settle for less than they want. I am not talking about placing your expectancies high above what you are willing to give or superficial expectancies, such as, a rich partner who owns a castle or yacht.
The concern here though is about the negatives. It is really disheartening to hear some of the stories that individuals, whether men or women put up with in a relationship and then complain about.
A classic case was where this young lady told her boyfriend that she wanted to slow down the relationship and then he got vengeful and started sending her receipts of past dates and informing her that she needs to reimburse him. The worst part to the story is she is wondering if she should continue the relationship as she does not have the money to repay him. Seriously!!!? This guy is the epitome of jerk and she should run far from him. This is the cue to let her know that she should not continue a relationship with him. He obviously is controlling and if he does not get what he wants then bad things will happen. This would be a toxic relationship and she would not be happy. It makes me feel so upset even just writing this. He has no scruples! When they were dating, he willingly paid for the dates, that is what men do but to want his money back when she wants to slow things down is just plain low.
I have said it before in another setting that women need to open their eyes to what they want in a relationship and make the distinction with what they are getting. Sure you want a relationship but not at the cost of your dignity. There are many men who would love to treat you with the love and respect that you deserve so do not settle.
There are women who are trapped in verbally, physically, emotionally or psychologically abusive relationships and will cry and complain and refuse to walk away. I know it is more challenging in instances where children reside or the woman is unemployed. This is where you need to get the necessary support to get your life together and walk away. Yes, jobs are hard to come by but find support groups or other agencies where you can get help. Explore your talents and see how you can use it to make money, considering that it is legal of course.
There are other instances where the couple are dating for years and the man refuses to commit. Why stick around then? In his mind why buy the milk when you can get it for free.
How effective is your communication with each other? I am not telling you to chase him away with your demands but there should be some basic expectations that you both share. This is the twenty-first century, open your eyes. We are given a brain to think so use it.
Gone are the days when we are told to follow our heart. I say follow your head. If your head and heart are saying the same thing then you are home free but if your head is saying one thing and your heart is saying another then you have a decision to make.