Two becoming one

The scriptures teaches that a man and woman shall leave their parents and be joined together in matrimony and the two shall become one.
Is this to be taken literally? Do the two individuals now become like Siamese, where they are always together and doing the same things? Does this mean that they no longer connect with family and friends?
This would seem like a boring and claustrophobic life. I do recognize that there a some people who actually believe that this is what it means when two individuals get married. Sure, you need to spend time with each other and get to know each other more but you also need time apart to cherish the relationship that you have.


My understanding is that when you leave your family of origin, the intent is not to cut them off totally but to start your own family, put your spin on the type of family that you would like to have. There maybe good attributes or family traditions that you would like to input in your new life with your spouse as well as there may be negative situations that you will not want to repeat. This is now your chance to create the family that you want.

One should also bear in mind that whereas you maintain a relationship with your family and friends and incorporate them in your new life, they should not be the driving force behind your relationship. The growth of your relationship is between you and your spouse. It is not dependent on family or friends. Sure you maintain a relationship with them and visit each other etc.., but they should not be dictating how you should live your life to the point of possibly instructing your spouse what to do. If this is the case then you would not be ready for marriage.
I have heard of instances where the wife expects her husband to disconnect with his female friends and would screen the calls that come in for him. This is a sign of mistrust and possessiveness. He married you, that should tell you where his loyalty lies. It is interesting that women will maintain friendships with their male friends yet would not want their spouses to do the same. These were the same friends that they had while you were courting. A ring does not change anything aside from your living arrangements for those who started living together after marriage.
Another encumbrance is couples living at one parents' home after marriage. I know at times there may be circumstances that cannot be helped, such as an ailing parent but it should not just be because parent or child cannot let go. This is really unhealthy.
In two becoming one, you both maintain your individuality as you strive to build your home together.