Should your family be involved in your relationship?

I'm not big on reality television especially where it involves families but I have had the privilege of observing two briefly. One family is constantly in the limelight so without having to watch them on television, I am constantly aware of them. I have observed that these families are female dominated so the men seem to follow while the women lead and in most cases are obnoxious to the men.

My focus though is on the men who date these women and have to be subjected to the mothers and female siblings in these families whim and fancies. So here I ask the question. Should families be involved in the relationships of other family members? I am not talking about getting to know the family or having dinner on occasion. I am talking about the intimate details of each others' lives and the extent of telling the bewildered male how to treat their daughter or sister.

Finding Mr Right

Many times over, I hear women complain about the men in their life and they always start with the phrase, "he is a great person but", and they want advice as to how to change their husband. Seriously? At what point in the relationship did you realise this problem? Be honest here, did you notice it from early in the relationship and figured that there is time enough to change him? Unfortunately you were not able to but now you need external help to deal with it. Is that trait that bad that you cannot compromise or live with it? But then you have been living with it for years!

You cannot change others, you can only change yourself. Let us look back at the topic. To experience that happy and lasting relationship, firstly, you have to find the person that is right for you. The key is to get to know the person beneath the surface, beneath the generic, tall, dark and handsome or must have a job. These are important as these would be the primary part of your list and everyone has their type, however, the important part that determines your deal breaker comes from getting to know the person.

In getting to know your person takes time and effort. It means going to different places such as, the beach, movies, restaurant, game, church or wherever you choose or like but it is about getting to know the person in different scenarios as people will actually behave differently depending on the place or situation that they are in.
Take note of the different behaviours. Were you pleased all the time or upset most of the time? How does he react to the situations that you did not like? Was he apologetic or was he arrogant and think that you should accept him for who he is? He may very well have a point there if that is the case but guess what? You don't need to stick around and hope that he will change. Know your deal breaker and the sooner you move on, then the soon you can find your Mr Right.