Finding Mr Right

Many times over, I hear women complain about the men in their life and they always start with the phrase, "he is a great person but", and they want advice as to how to change their husband. Seriously? At what point in the relationship did you realise this problem? Be honest here, did you notice it from early in the relationship and figured that there is time enough to change him? Unfortunately you were not able to but now you need external help to deal with it. Is that trait that bad that you cannot compromise or live with it? But then you have been living with it for years!

You cannot change others, you can only change yourself. Let us look back at the topic. To experience that happy and lasting relationship, firstly, you have to find the person that is right for you. The key is to get to know the person beneath the surface, beneath the generic, tall, dark and handsome or must have a job. These are important as these would be the primary part of your list and everyone has their type, however, the important part that determines your deal breaker comes from getting to know the person.

In getting to know your person takes time and effort. It means going to different places such as, the beach, movies, restaurant, game, church or wherever you choose or like but it is about getting to know the person in different scenarios as people will actually behave differently depending on the place or situation that they are in.
Take note of the different behaviours. Were you pleased all the time or upset most of the time? How does he react to the situations that you did not like? Was he apologetic or was he arrogant and think that you should accept him for who he is? He may very well have a point there if that is the case but guess what? You don't need to stick around and hope that he will change. Know your deal breaker and the sooner you move on, then the soon you can find your Mr Right.

So far we have looked at the other person but guess what? In expecting from others, we also need to give. Therefore, what are you bringing to the relationship? What type of person are you? Have you ever heard the saying, "you are what you attract?' Well there is some truth to it. So before trying to nab Mr Right, it is best for you to do some self exploration and prepare yourself to be Miss Right. Examine yourself as to who you are, the negatives and the positives. Do you think that someone will put up with your negatives? If not, you have some changing to do.
Work on yourself and be the best you. When you exude confidence and self control, you will attract the right person to you and there will be less men to weed out. Let me make a point here, no-one wants to be with a possessive or insecure person, so if you are aware of those shortcomings about you then I implore you to get help.

In a nutshell, in finding your Mr Right, you need to be Miss Right for him, so truly examine yourself, your faults, the good and indifferent and be the person that anyone would want to have in their life. Also, be truthful and honest with yourself so you can be truly honest with others.