Using your spawn as a pawn in your breakup

This topic may sound a bit racy but for those to whom it applies, then it fits perfectly. Stop using your child as a pawn in your breakup between yourself and your spouse. There are some many stories in this regard and it keeps happening. Women are especially guilty of this although men do it too.
You are hurting your child or children. Whatever the problem is, it is between the adults so stop placing your children in the middle or using them as pawns in your sick twisted, game.
So the relationship or marriage did not work out, regardless of the reason, stop using your child as leverage against your spouse. These have turned out so badly in some instances. There have been cases where the disenfranchised spouse kills the child and then himself.
Think about it, you have separated and you get custody of the child plus child support, the father only gets visiting rights and even that you want to strip from him. In this case although you know he loves his child and would never hurt him/her you still dig in to deny him as much as possible from seeing his child, especially when you know how much the child means to him.
Remember that your child will grow up one day and will eventually learn the truth as you can hide everything from the child for so long.
So, parents, regardless  of what your spouse did to you, please do not deny the other parent of seeing their child or plant negative seeds in your child's head about the other parent. In the long run, whether you recognize it or not, you are hurting our child. This will be one bitter and confused child.
Regardless of the reason for the breakup, leave your child/children out of your mess, it is just not healthy for them and if you love your children any at all, you would not hurt them this way.