Nothing is wrong with being kind to your partner but it should not be the reason to keep him. What you are doing is buying his affection and there will come a time when that is no longer enough to keep him. Unfortunately for you, he was only sticking around because of what he could get from you, not for love and in your desperation to keep a man, you did not recognize that he was only using you.
Ladies, come on! You can do better than that. You deserve better than that! Firstly, you need to get out of desperate mode and getting into self mode. In self mode, you work on yourself and become a better you. Work on your self esteem and confidence, improve on yourself in other areas as are necessary, possibly your job or wardrobe, and then date yourself for a while. It is that air of confidence about you that will attract the man that you want to attract, then he will do the chasing.
I have realised that within a certain age bracket, some women have put a limit on themselves as to when they should get married and start having children and then when they realise that their allotted time is expiring then they hit panic mode and start chasing men who are not good for them who only hurt them and the cycle continues.
Listen, you are doing it all wrong, you should attract the man to you, not you chasing the man. Basically, he should come to you, and when he does, do not allow your biological clock to rule you but stay focused and date him and get to know him. If you realise that you are not on the same path then walk away. Do not try to change him or buy his affection, desperation is not a good colour for anyone. Have you heard the saying, "you are what you attract?"
Let the right man be attracted to the confident you, not the wrong man being attracted to the desperate you as the latter will not work out well.
Good luck in attracting your Mr Right and please, allow your self confidence to shine through.
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